I can't speak to or deny your experiences, but mine have been very different.
It feels good and is so easy to just say "Well at least they didn't go hungry today", or "long term solutions are fine but what about now" or even accuse those who disagree with a particular METHOD of helping the poor of just wanting to hide them so as to not be bothered by them.
But the simple truth is that thinking allows us to back burner the long term, better, more helpful solutions. It is easy to convince myself I can't help all the homeless and can't change the system so why not feed a few living under a bridge or in a park. But how much more beneficial to THEM to see to it there are safe, clean, well administered feeding programs, rehabs, mental health facilities, etc available and then insist the help be done right.
It sort of smacks of the old abortion debate--since women die in poorly done back alley abortions, let's legalize it. Of course, let's NOT require they be done as safely as a colonoscopy, as that makes them too expensive and harder to get. How much better to first make legal abortion have to be as safe as any other surgical procedure, and also work to bring the desire for abortion on demand to an end by addressing the root causes.
In our town, not only does it require inspection and permits to conduct this kind of feeding program, but if our church or local business or family group wants to do a large picnic in the park, the same permit is required.
The chef's religious freedom is not infringed upon by making him follow the same standards as the rest of society. He can still feed the poor, just within the local laws. What if his religious belief demanded he go around shooting liberal and moderate pastors? Still think his religious "rights" trump law
Seriously, we do need more advocates for the poor willing to step up. But the focus needs to be long term solutions, not short term fixes. We can't be duped into thinking food from and in a soup kitchen is somehow less holy than food in a park.