Pre-Jesus, the Jews and others were all into sacrifice and never finding complete Salvation and its accompanying joy. After Jesus the Catholic Church still wanted their Priests to control people through penance / baptism / eucharist / chastity vows and other articificial and man-controlled aspects of faith and trust.
Once Jesus gave his life a sacrifice for our sins, things completely changed. We now live in a New Testament era!
Sandy, you are trying too hard to keep the new wine in old wineskins---to a fault, in my view.
Why can't you just admit, Jesus said NOTHING about homosexuality one way of the other? He loved and forgave all those he met with physical or mental issues. He healed those who came asking for it and believing.
On top of that, God made mankind as the crowing part of Creation and declared "It is good." The Hebrew words used in creation have more "humanity" associated with them than "male / female." Mankind better expresses it in a general term and is used first in the verse in Genesis.
My research and personal observation of all sexual creatures (most have some sex at higher levels), the picture of creation and sexuality is a continuum rather than a clear break. All humans have both male and female hormones flowing in their bodies during all their life. When my wife was pregmant with a male child, she was more sexually aggressive and had a different demeanor than when it was a first female baby. It is also different when not pregnant at all. It has been different at different stages of her maturity and now into menopause. The same is true for my male being.
Things change and it is not a simple pattern nor status from birth to death. Science confirms it as well. Why is is so hard for you to see a different view and, at least, entertain the possiblity of complexity even in the male/female sphere of life